So basically the title, my family is not emotionally open and often cold toward me showing love to them. They never answer to I love yous. I am really into showing love to people I love. I know they love me but they don’t show it. I feel always rejected when I show a little love and getting nothing back though I know I shouldn’t expect anything back and plus I understand they are emotion-shy so not take it to heart. But in some way it disturbs my Buddhist learning because I don’t know if I could handle people not showing compassion if I show them compassion. What’s your take on it?
The shitty part about all this stuff is it only helps you work on yourself, it never makes anybody else be the version of themselves you wish they were. It’s like “hey! I figured something out! Yayyy stuff will be cool now!” and it is but only inside you, and only if you keep at it.
It seems like it should make them be cool to you. Instead, it throws the way they are in your face and it’s your job to be ok even if they’re not being cool to you.
The cool part about all this stuff is that, by just working on you being ok, even if they aren’t doing what they should, you maximize the chances that they’ll come around. And if they don’t, you just keep doing the thing that makes you be ok, just like you would if they did.