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1 month agoWith varying levels of success.
At my best, I remember my bad feelings bend the moral arc of the universe towards anger instead of clarity, the opposite of how it feels, and just sort of picture a fire hose blasting through a sieve, and then try to be that.
The shitty part about all this stuff is it only helps you work on yourself, it never makes anybody else be the version of themselves you wish they were. It’s like “hey! I figured something out! Yayyy stuff will be cool now!” and it is but only inside you, and only if you keep at it.
It seems like it should make them be cool to you. Instead, it throws the way they are in your face and it’s your job to be ok even if they’re not being cool to you.
The cool part about all this stuff is that, by just working on you being ok, even if they aren’t doing what they should, you maximize the chances that they’ll come around. And if they don’t, you just keep doing the thing that makes you be ok, just like you would if they did.